Dinner & Cuddles Group GuideLines & Intentions:
If you are interested in hosting a Dinner & Cuddles, these are the guidelines for holding the container of these gatherings:
(And please remember these are simply intentions and not rules or obligations. We trust you to do your best and also take care of yourself).
General Atmosphere: This is a beloved community of friends and family and we cherish the opportunity to celebrate life together in a safe space. The essence of these gatherings is causal cuddly connections. The primary focus is on eating and cuddling and authentic relating. Vulnerability, growth and healing is an integral part of this community. Ultimately we are here to love ourselves more.
The intention is to have a 100% Artificial Fragrance-Free gathering. Most of the people in this group are highly sensitive to processed/added natural, artificial fragrances and chemical odors. Please come with no perfume, cologne, essential oils, scented (re/de)-odorants, scented aftershave, hairspray, strong-smelling shampoos or conditioners, scented hand or dish soap, scented laundry products, &c. We welcome your freshly bathed natural odors. (Hosts please refrain from using: Scented Candles, Incense, Palo Santo, Sage, Scent Sprayers, &c.) However, if you need certain moisturizers for your health or comfort, unscented products are welcome. Please honor your body.
Please refrain from cosmetics that easily rub off. No facial cosmetics or glitter products that can rub off on fabrics or other people. Host has permission to request that individuals shower or change their clothes if needed for any cosmetic or fragrance reasons.
This is a gathering for people who are experienced in attending touch-based consent and communication events, and for people who know how to be responsible with their own sexual energy. If other energies or forms of connection organically arise in the moment, that is welcome. Keep it simple. Thank you for taking care of yourself.
If you are going to use any substances or party enhancements, please do so in a way where you can be fully present & conscious with the group and the intention for the gathering.
Event closed to RSVP attendees; No random last minute additions during the event. And invitees should already be part of the group.
A. Host: Please State RSVP Cut-Off Time (i.e. 12 hours, 3 days, 1 week, &c) before the event.
B. Discretion of host: HOST will disclose to attendees ahead of time if there might be Non-Members of D&C at the event - i.e: partners, housemates, family members, &c. Please inform the group if there will be non-attendees around the house, which might be passing through or using common areas. Please announce any Pets or Animals that might be present, in case of allergies. Also please state if the animals will be allowed to participate or if they'll be kept in another area during the event.
Hosts: If your venue space is limited, please announce your Capacity Limits.
Each Host: Please state any additional House Rules/Needs for your event/venue: (i.e. noise levels, no to particular substances, additional scent or other restrictions, &c). Also notify guests in advance if you plan to create an extra container by having an Opening &/or Closing Circle. In which case, please announce how you intend to address the flow between RSVPs who might Arrive After Opening or Leave Before Closing Circle.
If you would like to host or facilitate a gathering that falls outside these guidelines, it’s fine to invite people from this group, but we ask that you create a separate container for your event outside of Dinner & Cuddles.
These GuideLines & Intentions will be updated from time to time. Members are responsible to keep themselves updated. A notice will usually be posted in group chat reminding everyone to check for updates.
Privacy: Please do not mention anyone else's attendance to D&C events online or in person in a group that isn't D&C, unless directly authorized by those individuals.
Heath, Attendance, & Politics. During this time, we would like to inform you that as a community we do not have the intention to participate in or practice any Corona Virus policies or politics. We do not have any vaccine or mask rules. We choose Trust. If you are feeling unwell and are signed up for an event, simply inform the host for that event that you won't be attending. By being part of the this community, you are consenting to honor your own personal health practices and beliefs. We trust that all members who come to gatherings are in good health and feel their body is safe to bring around others.
Group Chat. Please use "I" Statements, and speak only about your OWN experience. Do Not share someone else's health status, exposure risk, or experience in the group chat, (unless you have DIRECT consent, in the case that they are UnAble to speak for themselves, due to some emergency). If you choose NOT to attend an event, simply Inform the host that you're not attending and do NOT post in the Group chat any long explanations. D&C Chat is for discussing upcoming DINNER AND CUDDLES events! Lastly, we do NOT condone any Political Covid-19 Related Discussions in Group Chat. If you have specific needs or health concerns, please contact the particular event host or admin.
i. If you have any questions, please contact Miia in Finnish.
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One of the Core Values of this group is being Scent Free. We welcome your Freshly Bathed Body Odors. Please NO Scented (Re/De)-Odorants, Perfumes, Colognes, Essential Oils, Hairspray, Strong-Smelling shampoos or conditioners, Scented laundry products, &c. However, if you need certain moisturizers for your health or comfort, unscented products are welcome. Please honor your body.
This is a Private Group. Please do not post D&C events on FaceBook, MeetUp, EventBrite, &c.
Current Group MemberShip is limited to 42 Individuals.
InActive Members will be removed from the group by Admin after an agreed upon time (~ 2 months / 6 events of non-attendance) (exception: founding members will have permanent group membership regardless of participation time, unless they decide to leave).
A WaitList will be established for those who wish to join D&C. Potential Members will be reviewed by actual group members. Then Admin will determine whether or not to approve new members.
New Members will be added to the group after mutual Try-Out period. After attending a few events, Potential New Members (PNM) will decide if they wish to become part of the group. The Sponsor for each PNM will then communicate to the rest of the group that the individual wants to join. Members will have a few days to communicate to Admin any potential Issues or concerns they might have about PNM. If the consensus is to accept the PNM, then that individual will become a New Member.